In a bookstore, before I left the U.S., I saw a book that mentioned “twin souls” a lot, so I was excited, imagining someone had actually written a book on this topic. I wanted to see what they had to say and picked it up without knowing what to expect. Honestly, however, several chapters in, I’m still confused about whether the author meant for this book to be about twin souls or not. It reads more like a book about alchemy and sacred geometry.
I’m trying to keep an open mind. Even though alchemy and sacred geometry are not my area and I don’t believe that learning about them is (AT ALL) a necessary prerequisite to uniting with your twin, I decided to try reading this book because I think it’s important to know what kind of information people are getting about twin souls out there in the world today. Even if I don’t agree with it — it’s important to be familiar with the kinds of kinds of ideas that may be filling the heads of people with a shared interest.
The book will remain nameless for now. There are a number of thought-provoking quotes that I do like, but at this point, I’m reading mostly just to inform myself of the author’s perspective (which is the perspective that a lot of others will be exposed to); there are far more claims in this book that don’t really resonate with me than claims that do. I’ve been known to find myself not vibing with some books that a lot of people LOVE (spirituality books included) and generally don’t feel a need to post about all my disagreements.
Still, I feel like some of the claims in this book are important to explore. So over the next few days, I’ll be posting a few things I’ve encountered in it that compelled me to share my own thoughts on the matter.
The best thing you could do is, if you feel drawn to ANY book (on spirituality, on love, on anything at all), then read it – but keep checking in with your heart and using peace and love as your guides in sussing out what perspectives feel most loving and which ones feel most limiting.
Somebody once told me that what I wrote on the topic of twin souls stood out because of how loving it was. This made me, actually, a bit sad to hear. Not that I was offended, by any means, but I was sad because it felt like a signal regarding how much supposed “twin soul” information out there today is just that — less than loving. Judgmental. Fear-based (overtly or otherwise). Limiting.
Please remind yourselves: THIS TOPIC IS NOTHING BUT LOVE! Love at its very purest.
Why should writings on twin soul connections be anything but loving?
Just my humble opinion on approaching twin soul “info.”
Read whatever you will, but remind yourself that your heart has all the answers right within. And the truth will feel like peace.
Well… I’m going to try to explain this in a counterintuitive way, but I hope that it makes sense.
Could the fears and insecurities of one twin interfere with the connection? Yes, but — I also believe — the fact that there are still these insecurities and fears is also simply an indication that the time is still not right. In other words, there may be a causal relationship on some level, yes… but whenever we assert causality, we’re operating on the assumption of linear time, i.e., one thing causes another because it comes first. And linear time is not a hard-and-fast reality, but rather a perception. In reality, everything is happening in a timeless moment called the Now. Cause and effect, therefore, are harder to tease apart. As are destiny and free-will. You are creating your experience, creating this world. Now. It will echo your consciousness, and your experiences will reflect it, in turn.
Your initial connection happened for a reason. However, that didn’t mean that the time was right for lasting union. So it’s not that your fears snuck in and f*cked things up when they were otherwise meant to be all smooth-sailiing from the start; it’s that… those fears were already there, and they were going to have to be worked through anyway. The cooling doesn’t mean that he isn’t your twin; twins get scared, and twins can be judgmental toward or frightened/overwhelmed into maintaining a distance with each other. Is he put off at the moment by your nervousness? Well, I hope he’d be more understanding than that, but who knows? All you need to remember is that your fears are NEVER some fault or flaw you need to chastise yourself for; that kind of thinking won’t help you get rid of them. Just observe them, intend to allow them to be healed and released, and this will facilitate the process.
It’s also normal for deep wounds and insecurities to float to the surface in the presence of our twin soul and other close soulmates. This is natural. And it’s true that people are generally more attracted to confidence than anxiety. You probably are as well. But that doesn’t mean that anxious people are inherently unattractive, much less that you aren’t capable of reaching and radiating a deeper sense of peace, or that your twin would be unlikely to notice the shift when you did. Nor can you really be sure what exactly made him see you more as a friend than a love interest; it may be unrelated to what you see as the reasons for which you’re blaming yourself right now. Either way, only time will tell how your feelings for one another evolve.
It’s normal to have questions about who your twin soul is, or even if twin souls are a “thing.” But if you keep your heart open and trust in it, you will be led, ultimately, to the partner who will be able to live the deepest love with you. And this current period with this man right now won’t matter — whether your greatest destiny involves him or somebody else — beyond what it helped you uncover for your own learning, growth, and healing.
I believe that, in twin soul situations, you can’t “screw things up” and that everything happens at the right time. If you’re still feeling fearful, just remind yourself that, as a reflection of your own twin soul, your own fears would suggest that your twin probably has fears that he has yet to work through or let go of as well. It’s not only you who will be experiencing more learning and healing on the road ahead, even if you’re still seeing your twin as flawless and have no way of knowing what his issues possibly are (in which case, you may be assuming you’re the only one who needs to “fix” things and that he must be fine — which wouldn’t be a completely accurate picture of either of you as human beings; all people have healing and growing work to do, and, paradoxically, nobody needs “fixing”).
Pretty much everybody has some fears. And even then, it’s not like joining with your twin means that you have reached a point where, forevermore thereafter, you will be fearless. There’s just a particular level of healing and awareness to be reached before joining with the twin; it doesn’t mean that growth and healing are finished. So you also never really know when the reunion can happen. How do you know when you’re “done” — when being “done” is not even a possibility? Consciousness never quits observing, learning, expanding. :)
Until the stage when they’re “ready,” something or other keeps twins apart so they can continue learning and growing on their own. But who knows what this “something” is, in any given pairing? Don’t blame yourself unduly for the current circumstances of his non-romantic interest; the blame is a burden you don’t deserve and one you don’t need to carry. It’s not your “fault” that things are as they are right now. They just… are. And you’re looking at things with an earnest heart, genuinely focused on healing. That is wonderful! You are doing fantastic!
So just relax, be kind to yourself, and trust that having fears is not screwing anything up; intending to release these fears and find your way back to the bliss of the unconditional love within yourself is all you really need to do.
And you will find it. Nobody can hold you back from this. It’s already within, growing, and working its way up through the various levels of your consciousness and into your waking world. When it’s what you really yearn for, divine love can’t be stopped.
Peace and love. <3
Somebody recently commented that they were struck by how I’m unafraid to reveal on my blog that I am human. To be honest, I was very grateful and glad to hear this. For the curious, I’ll explain a bit about why I post the things I post here on Tumblr.
I believe that our life experiences contribute greatly to what we are able to offer the world. We are all manifestations of the oneness, playing out its fantastic “dream.” We live what we live and achieve what we achieve on behalf of EVERYONE. I met a teacher once, I remember, who was evasive whenever anyone asked him for the name he used from earlier in his life or when they asked where he was from. I recall thinking, “Why? What is the point of this?” Pretending to exist entirely outside of the context of the human experience is not going to help anybody find you more relatable, and relatability is key. To do otherwise is, well, othering. And to do things that are othering is to make people imagine divides – and, naturally following, limitations – where there are none. Which doesn’t serve.
I’m certainly human, just as is everyone else. And part of being human is having moments of frailty, getting scared, feeling sad, and occasionally second-guessing the decisions we make at the most confusing times (the moments that try us and take us to the limits of what we’ve already learned how to handle). As more people have begun reading my blog, I’ve had moments where I question, “Is this okay to share? Is it alright to let people know what is happening in my world, or is it better if I keep this space free of my own process, and just use it as a repository for quotes, abstract commentary, and questions?” I try to focus the content on spirituality and commentary on issues like love, equality, and mental health, with occasional posts related to sexuality and travel. To me, these things are related in a way that’s hard to articulate, but I’ll try.
Sexuality interests me because of how powerful the act of sex is, but also because it is an expression of creative energy. Love interests me for the same reason that it interests everybody else: it’s what we are. It’s what we work with. It’s what we’re here to expand through and with and upon. Love is what moves all the mountains and makes all the miracles (what makes anything, really), but we’ve sullied our understanding of Love with millennia worth of collective personal and societal baggage. Unhealthy relationships and mental health issues often arise out of our misconceptions about love (and the misconceptions about love that others have had and projected onto us). This includes self-love. So I post about all of these things to try to encourage nonjudgment and acceptance.
As for equality-related posts, the importance of cultivating an equality perspective is self-evident. Furthermore, taking this a step further into the realm of sociology/anthropology and travel, this is probably a big part of the reason why I occasionally feel like posting about things happening in other cultures and/or parts of the world. There is so much beauty in how humanity has evolved to create so many different systems for existing in the world, tackling the “problems” of being human, expressing the same universal emotions and satisfying the same basic fundamental needs. And it helps us, often, to step outside of the confines of our own minds when we examine another group or individual’s way of doing things; at first, we might respond with shock, and wonder “Why?!”
But many times, by examining the alternatives, we realize that our own group’s habits and rules are arbitrary, and it’s a bit of a consciousness breakthrough when we start to wonder, “Well… why not?”
So I post about a potpourri of these things. And occasionally also about my own life. Because my life and the people in it have been my teachers, and one of my life goals is to share the stories, as a writer of memoir, of the processes that have taught me the most. Plus, my life has had its share of moments wherein love, sex, travel, cultural relativism, emotional health, etc. have played a big hand in shaping what transpires. So I share and hope that sometimes, perhaps it’s worthwhile for me to share what is happening as it happens. Just because I haven’t gotten to the “answers” yet in particular puzzles in my life doesn’t mean that the questions aren’t relatable, and there’s a sense of healing in solidarity, reading something and knowing that you’re not the only one who’s been there. What’s more, of course, posting about the occasional misstep or worry does emphasize the fact that I’m human, and it’s important for all of us, always, to remember that everyone is human.
And no less divine or lovable. ;)
This sounds very cool! I have to say, I could be wrong on this, but I feel like the chakras you feel activating more strongly with particular people in your life probably varies from individual to individual. I’ve heard a few different perspectives on which chakra “wakes up,” or where people feel the strongest concentrations of energy buzzing in the presence (physical or etheric) of their twin souls, so with all the variety, I feel like there is no hard and fast rule to this. Which chakras figure more prominently in this experience is probably related to a number of factors: which chakras are most energized in us, which are undergoing the most profound healing, which chakras are associated with issues that are karmically relevant to our connection with any given person, etc. This isn’t something I could really pinpoint for you, but as you reflect on the various possibilities, you’ll have an intuitive sense of which “explanation” feels most right to you.
As for the heart chakra, yes, this is a big one, and I’d imagine that the heart chakra, in particular, is active anytime there is deep love involved (or even when there is deep heart healing happening — even if the person whose presence is facilitating the healing isn’t someone you love). The heart chakra is at the center of the whole system too, and ultimately any fear that is healed is a blockage to self-love, which is the heart’s domain. So, all healing ultimately happens in and/or through the heart. All healing is borne of love. In this respect, I feel like the heart chakra will always be involved in deep connections like this. Which is probably why it feels like the heart chakra gets super-excited! :)
What’s happening with your third eye, I think, may be related to the increase in psychic phenomena that sometimes comes along with twin soul connections and/or milestones in the connection. It’s opening up for you to receive more direct impressions or intuitive perceptions, which is a process that ultimately serves to heighten your awareness. Just be sure, when the third eye is opening up, to stay grounded, and if you receive anything that feels like a message, ask yourself what sort of feeling it brings. I.e., does the energy it leaves you with feel loving, peaceful, true? If not, you are always free to dismiss it. Just remember that, whatever the third eye chakra opens you to “seeing,” you are always allowed to exercise your own “filter.”
When you say that the sensation is getting “higher,” I’m not sure what you mean, so I can’t speak to that. Do you mean that the concentration of energy you feel on your forehead is higher (i.e., closer to your hairline) than the third eye normally is? If that’s what you mean, I’m not familiar with what that kind of sensation represents, but I notice that spot heating up on myself from time to time. I’d still love to know what is happening! Sorry I can’t explain it to you, but I’ve never yet figured it out. :-/
Hope that helps!
Sending you peace and love. :)
When this happens with someone you love, it’s awesome.
Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.