Someone recently asked a question along these lines:
In my connection with this guy who feels like he might be my twin soul, I feel like I have more of the masculine energy (I’m a woman.), while he carries the feminine energy. I’ve read that twin souls are often gender complements of one another, so what does this mean for us?
Here are my thoughts:
Regarding female/male dichotomies, I wouldn’t be too worried about who has what. It helps to think of gender as existing on a continuum that we can slide along, whereupon we can each express different bits of each at any given time. So if you feel in touch with your masculine side and feel a feminine energy coming from him, that’s cool! If you felt any other combination of energies, that’s cool too! If that shifts or flips around at any point in time, that is ALSO entirely cool! Gender is fluid, and it has nothing to do with who can love each other or how people can get along in bed. :)
I know some “twin soul” sources say that twins have to complement each other in terms of gender, or — WORSE — that they “have to” or “can only” possibly be hetero pairings (Why, whyyyyyyy would people think THAT???! *Laura hangs and shakes head for a brief moment, not understanding humanity.*), BUT I honestly don’t see why gender is an issue, so don’t worry about that when you read it in some places. You can disregard anything that doesn’t feel true.
I know many traditions ground themselves in the idea of gendered energies, which can be a helpful metaphor and an interesting concept to explore for many of the people who resonate with such traditions. In those cases, I’m not saying that gender is entirely irrelevant – but, in a sense, it is as irrelevant as anything else in the Earth experience. It’s only relevant to the extent that we ascribe importance to it. If you have fun playing with gender or immersing yourself in a sexual connection that flips traditional gender roles on their heads and lets you explore them from a new angle (in a mystical sense OR a mundane one), then therein lies gender’s “importance” in your experience, and that’s awesome! Just know that gender need define – or limit – nothing. :)
Remember above everything else: unconditional love is divine love, and unconditional love is conditional upon NOTHING — and that includes gender and biological sex.
If bees die hungry — so do we. They make our food happen. Seriously.
Reading cards for a friend tomorrow and just unwittingly made plans to meet at Exit 11 for 11:00. There’s no particular reason why I find this funny, but it’s now pretty impossible to flake out, because that is memorable.
It’s hard, pulling yourself away from art.
Andres Amador is an artist who uses the beach as his canvas, racing against the tide to create these large scale temporary masterpieces using a rake or stick ..
Andres’ creations are simply stunning and knowing that these delicate creations are temporary somehow makes them even more beautiful.
(I’ve reblogged some of his stuff before but here’s some more beauty)
They’re playing “Just Haven’t Met You Yet” at the Starbucks in Xintiandi, and I have weird associations with that song. For some reason, it seems to be on heavy Starbucks rotation around town for the past week or two (can’t even remember how many times I heard it, just that it’s been a lot), but I always associate it with early-springtime, March and April of four years ago, when it was new. I keep feeling like I’m being thrown back into that time. Weird, just a weird time-warp.
Your beloved is engaging in self-destructive behaviors, and/or you’re worried that someone else close to them is going to ruin their life.
My thoughts on this:
This is a hard lesson that some of us have to learn in life; you can’t control another’s process, even if the way they’re managing that process stands to hurt them. In other words, you can’t protect people from themselves. Examples of unfortunate situations you really can’t control:
(a) Your beloved has an addiction or a mental illness and refuses to acknowledge it or get help.
(b) Your beloved is doing something irresponsible and you’re worried it’s going to come back to bite them in the ass.
(c) Your beloved is involved with someone you don’t trust, and you’re worried they’re going to end up brokenhearted (or anything else unpleasant).
You have a couple of options in these situations, but there are definite limits to what YOU can do; you can’t control the outcomes.
In Scenario (a), if you feel like you can safely talk to them about your worries, do so. Do this as nonjudgmentally as possible, and reassure them that you love them unconditionally and are only discussing it with them because you care. If you have some specific fears for their well-being (emotional, physical, financial, etc.), feel free to state what these are. You can offer to find them contact numbers for rehab centers, counselors, etc. Beyond that, there’s not much more you can do. If it feels urgent or otherwise appropriate, you might also decide that you want to let someone close to them know about your concerns (e.g., a parent of theirs). After that, all you can do is wash your hands and let the situation go; it’s theirs to decide how to handle. You can offer to be supportive in their healing process, but you DO NOT have to stand by and watch them self-destruct.
In Scenario (b), you can apply what I’ve just said about how to navigate scenario (a).
In Scenario (c), this is a little trickier in that you don’t want to mudsling, and you may not even have solid evidence for distrusting the person who currently has their heart. All you can do is, if you’re in contact with them, just continue to interact with them in ways that remind them of how valuable they are – without demeaning or accusing anyone else. You can also, depending on the nature of your connection, ask them questions to prompt them to reflect on their own values and standards and hopes for love. Beyond that, it’s all up to them to discover and to navigate their own relationships because it is their own path. Yes, it hurts to watch people hurt, or to look on when you believe that their hurt is eventually coming. But all you can ever do for another person is just love them, wish them the very best, and let them know that that’s what they deserve. Aside from that, the most you can do for them is respect them and their decisions.
i shoot my Intentions\Love\Light into the Moon and there’s never any telling where she’ll reflect it to—- but the one’s that are particularly lunarly connected- ach throughout so much time they inevitably catch the refraction again at some point- —
if they happen to share darshan with her ripening bright form at just the right moment, that is
I used to send intentions and messages for relay to the moon ever since I was a kid! Maybe it’s just instinctive for us moon-children (or reincarnated shamans). ;)