People have asked me in the past whether listening to or reading about others’ stories of synchronicity can make synchronistic events happen in their own lives more often. It’s a good question. I’m inclined to say, “Yes. Yes, it can.”
I’ll offer a few examples, and then I’ll explain how they seem to work. I’ll follow up in a later post on how to draw more of them, and what you can do to “manage” their effects. :)
When my existence turned into a really wild carnival of “coincidence,” other people around me — even those who weren’t particularly superstitious — began noticing more of these events in their own lives too. I used to reason that it was just a matter of selective filtering and renewed attention to things serendipitous. But it isn’t. One time, in fact, a friend who had heard one of my stories said to me, “That’s incredible. You always hear about that sort of thing happening, but you never really know anybody who it happens to.”
What happened a few weeks later? She became one of those people. One of the people in my story; the woman unwittingly wrote herself into it. So much for not knowing “anybody who it happens to.” ;)
On another occasion, a different friend of mine excitedly told me about how she saw a sign for a place called Hope on the highway, immediately after asking to be shown “a of hope.” Then she turned on the radio, only to hear them talking about hope (the feeling). When she got her “literal sign of Hope!” it reminded her of me, since she knew I believed in signs. And, in fact, it was my friend “Soul Brother,” a guy she’d introduced me to, who had taught me to think that way.
What she didn’t know, however, was that, one year earlier, I had been on the way home after a road trip with Soul Brother, and we took a brief rest stop in exactly that same Hope. It was a significant experience for us, and we always questioned what had led us there. In other words, my friend’s “sign of Hope” — which reminded her of me — was a (literal) sign she didn’t realize was already significant to me, as a place.
Or that the friend who was with me at that time was the person responsible for my belief in signs. In other words, if she hadn’t introduced me to Soul Brother, and he hadn’t taught me to pay attention to coincidences, our mutual female friend wouldn’t have associated me with signs to begin with; I didn’t used to pay attention to them.
So, I’ve come to conclude, synchronicities/coincidences/signs, whatever you want to call them, are not a simple matter of selective attention. Not some superstitious nonsense. In particular kinds of situations, they actually seem draw additional people from your life — unsuspectingly — into whatever story they’ve been weaving all along.
When people have asked me if you could make your life more serendipitous just by reading about synchronicities, I wasn’t sure, and I didn’t have any way of explaining this, but my instinct told me “yes.” After all, the more you acknowledge or talk about synchronicities, the more they seem to happen. Which is convenient enough, if you’d like your life to be more magical! :) You can’t control synchronicities; something else does. But you can still “make” them happen more often.
Reading The Law of Attraction, I discovered the explanation as to how this apparently works. I’ll paraphrase a general comment Abraham were making: the idea is that the things you draw into your life come to you through a combination of focused attention, belief, and expectation. Focused attention is sometimes construed as “desire,” but you can draw things to yourself that you don’t truly desire either; it’s the thinking about it that matters. And the stronger your emotional response to the idea, the more likely you are to be — on an energetic level — creating that as a future experience for yourself.
They go on to explain that, if you truly desire something, but you don’t believe it’s possible, you probably don’t expect it. The good news is though, if you want something very much but don’t expect it or believe that it could be, you can still open your mind up about it (and, thus, start augmenting the desire with “belief”) by hearing about others’ experiences of that phenomenon.
Abraham give the example of a movie; you might see a movie about something and tell yourself, “Eh, I don’t have to worry about that happening in real life; this is just a movie.” But if a friend tells you afterwards that she knows someone who experienced something very similar, suddenly, there is a real-life link, and you start believing that it’s possible.
So, I’m guessing, perhaps that’s why synchronicities seem contagious. Even to the superstitious. If they have any desire whatsoever to experience the cool kinds of things that happen in a synchronistic way of life even if they don’t expect those kinds of things to happen to them, simply knowing somebody they trust who personally experiences that kind of thing can open their minds to the fact that… it happens. It is possible. And just knowing that something is possible makes such an enormous difference.